You’ve probably heard the saying, “You have to be in it to win it.” Well, the same goes for dating. If you want to find a date, you first have to put yourself out there. But before you can do that, you need to prepare your mind, heart, and makeup. This article will show you how.
Finding a Date
For busy professional singles, it is often difficult to find a date. It is frowned upon to date someone from the office. It can be awkward afterward if you don’t hit it off. And if you do, you’ll have another problem as you’ll have to keep it under wraps. That’s not the ideal situation to explore a possible relationship.
You’ve probably been through online date apps already. While some may have found success through these. But you’re here, and that shows you haven’t. You’re not alone. Many people on dating apps are not seeking a genuine connection but just a good time. If you want more than that, you may want to expand your options.
One way to meet someone who may be looking for the same thing as you is to be introduced through your closest friends. They know you well and will be able to tell if someone could be compatible with you. Although your friends may be on the lookout for someone like that, you can’t guarantee that they will find him.
Another option is to join a private matchmaking service for professionals in your area. Choose one that has excellent reviews and testimonials from successful matches. Also, make sure it does in-depth interviews to thoroughly get to know each client. Hence, its results are based on factors deeper than whatever may be in a generic form.
While there is no guarantee that you’ll immediately find the perfect date through matchmaking, the chances are much higher. Also, you’ll be going on dates with people who have the same dating goals as you.
How to Prepare Your Mind for a First Date
You may think that your mind is already focused on finding the right person. But if you’re constantly doubting yourself or thinking that you’re not good enough, those thoughts will seep into your actions and words. You need to be confident when meeting someone new.
Know what you want. Be clear about the qualities you’re looking for in a partner. It becomes easier to screen out the wrong people when you know what you want.
Believe that you’re worthy of love. If you don’t think you’re good enough, you’ll never believe anyone else will. You need to see yourself as a catch before anyone else will.
Boost your confidence by wearing something that makes you feel attractive. Make sure it is appropriate to the place.
Prepare questions that can help keep the conversation going. Choose questions that can give you a deeper insight into your date. Be prepared to answer the question yourself, as well. Here are some examples:
- What do you enjoy doing most?
- What is it about work that you love?
- What aspect of your job do you least like?
- If you can retire now and be set for life, how will you spend the rest of your life?
How to Prepare Your Heart for a First Date
If you don’t love and respect yourself, it will be challenging to find someone who will. Spend some time doing things that make you happy. Pursue your hobbies and interests. Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself. When you’re content with who you are, it will show when you meet someone new.
Get rid of any baggage from previous relationships. It will be difficult to open yourself up to someone new if you’re still carrying anger, resentment, or bitterness. Forgive yourself first, and then forgive anyone who may have hurt you in the past. You need to be able to start fresh.
How to Prepare Your Makeup for a First Date
Don’t pile on your makeup. You’ll want to look fresh and natural but polished. Accentuate your best features. Ask a friend or your makeup artist for help if you’re unsure what those are.
Choose a versatile lip color. A nude lip is always a good choice. But if you want something with more pop, go for a pink or red. Just make sure it’s not too bright or bold. You don’t want to look like you’re trying too hard.
If you’re not confident about your makeup skills, get a professional makeover that includes instructions and the products that are best suited for you. Ask for a natural date look. Do this way ahead of the scheduled date to have ample time to practice doing it yourself.
Enjoy Your Date
Preparing for a first date can be daunting. But if you take the time to prepare your mind, heart, and makeup, you’ll be putting your best foot forward. And who knows? The person you’re meeting could be the love of your life.